Foreshadowing:
I wake up excited for the day and head into work. I have a date set up for tonight, unfortunately it is at the same time as my massage studio appointment times. Maybe I can talk my date into moving the date to later tonight. I decide to text him before heading to work. “Hi I never answered about tomorrow. I have a client at 6 PM…” Maybe he will take to hint to make the date later on his own. My date replies at about two hours later “Ok would you like to meet later tonight? Like 7:30 PM? How long are the massages?” I replied about an hour later with “Two hours so I wouldn’t be finished until 8:15-8:30 so wouldn’t be getting to the date location until 8:50/9PM” Is that too late? Maybe I should ask him to reschedule? I will just see what he replies with.
He replies about 10 minutes later with “Ok sounds like reschedule is in order. I am actually going on vacation after work on Friday and will not be back for a week. New date night in two weeks at 7PM at a specific location.” I am a little lukewarm about waiting two weeks to meet this man again. I wonder if he is really going on vacation or blowing me off. I guess I will wait and see.
A week and a half pass and I get a text from my date “Hey Jules. How are you? I am looking forward to our date on Thursday and gave some more information about the location” I have not heard anything from him in a week and a half and am talking to three other guys that are interested in dating. I do not know what to reply so I just go with “Hiii!” “Wow, life” I pause for a couple minutes to compose my self and reply with “I’m doing well. I just haven’t stopped since I saw you last. I knew this was coming. Just making it through This month and the next isn’t so crazy as I am ensuring I finish out clients I already had scheduled. I am good for Thursday. I blocked off my schedule so there are no surprise bookings. I am off work at 5:30 then will be able to meet.”
Knowing that I have a date set up must have caused me to glow because right after confirming this date one of the attractive guys at the stretching studio asks me what I am doing Thursday night. Now what do I do. I have been waiting and fantasizing about this very situation. I have to go with the attractive guy right. I will keep my options open and decide Wednesday.
Wednesday rolls around and I am still on the fence on which man to go on the date with. I decide to hedge my bets and send my date a text to feel him out. “Hi, I hope your day is going well. Not sure if you had gotten my message about tomorrow or not? I have been thinking heavily and I want to maintain transparency here. I don’t think I see a romantic relationship happening in our future. I have enjoyed hanging with you and starting to get to know you. I am still very up for meeting tomorrow if you want but also completely understand if not. Thank you for being so on top of it and kind. It’s been refreshing (heart emoji) Wishing you well.” I hope he takes this well. I also do not want to lead him on.
My date replies “Hey Jules. How are you? Let’s just go have fun. Thank you for the transparency. See you at 7 PM tomorrow.” Well at least I know he does not just want to have sex with me, but what do I do now. Two dates and I am indecisive. I reply with “Great! See you there! I’m doing well, feeling positive today. How are you?” We chat back and forth for the rest of the afternoon.